Goodbye

Good bye is never easy. In fact, it is so difficult, people will refuse to let go, move on and aim high even when it is the best decision. They stay right where they are, in the safety of here. Here is a great place to be if it is getting you to there. But if here is keeping your here. Holding you back. Here is no place to stay.

Take a walk with me. 

We are born, we grow up and many of us learn how to move on and let go. We fearfully take those steps from the safety grip of the couch and allow ourselves to fly, sometimes literally. Watch a child as their mother walks into the other room. If you think you have trouble with good-bye you can rest assured your tears and sobs can never amount to the fit a two year old can throw as his mother goes to change a load of laundry. We say goodbye to our parents as we journey to our first day of school. We grow up, move out, say good-bye. Get married. Say goodbye. Leave for college. Say good-bye. Take that job in another city. We say good-bye. We have so much practice saying goodbye you would think we would be experts. 

What's holding you back?

No matter what it is that is holding you back from goodbye. It may be time for you to hold tight to the reigns of life and choose your goodbye. Many of us can't even change our phone numbers without anxiety. You would think our phone number is what defines who we are. "So I am able to save $110 on my cell phone bill and get better reception? All I have to do is get a new phone number? Absolutely NOT! That's ridiculous! How would anyone get a hold of me. How would anyone ever find me. I wouldn't exist any longer!" Don't get your panties in a bunch! I'm not asking you to change your phone number. Although some of you should. 

Good gets better. 

And yet there are times when you are faced with saying goodbye to good to seek out better. It is when we are willing to let go of comfortable, safe and secure and embrace risk that we will forge the greatest growth. 

Goodbye is more often than not the greatest hello to our future self!

“Your time may come. Do not be too sad, Sam. You cannot be always torn in two. You will have to be one and whole, for many years. You have so much to enjoy and to be, and to do.” 
― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Return of the King